We all have to face ups and downs in relationships in some stages of our life. Humans are complicated, and what is more complicated than us is our love life.
Sometimes, the relationship with our loved ones becomes so critical that making it work becomes challenging. That doesn’t mean you need to call an end to it. You can still fix your broken relationship if you work on it.
Making a successful relationship work is harder than breaking it, but it’s not impossible. If you want to fix your relationship with your beloved partner, first you need to fix yourself.
Continue reading to learn about the factors responsible for a broken relationship and the ways to fix them.
Reasons Behind a Failed Relationship
There are so many reasons why a relationship fails. Sometimes, it’s either you or your partner’s fault, and sometimes it’s both.
1. A Clash of Expectations
You might have expected something different from each other when the relationship started. But, as time goes on, things change, so as your expectations and attitudes.
Although changes are inevitable, it’s difficult to accept them. It leads towards frustration and hampers your relationship with your partner.
2. Trust Issues
Having trust issues is one of the key reasons behind so many broken hearts. It’s one of the most harmful contagions that can completely shatter your relationships.
Trust issues can occur for different reasons. It can be childhood trauma, betrayal, etc. When we don’t trust the people we love, we start losing trust in ourselves as well. It slowly leads to unreasonable rigidity, emotional and sexual infidelity, jealousy, and possessiveness.
3. Communication Problem
Communication is the key to every relationship. No matter how far you two live from each other, you need to maintain proper communication.
When there’s a lack of communication, problems may start rising between you two, including a trust issue. Lack of communication is so harmful. That’s why it’s one of the biggest reasons for the couples to go to therapy.
Whether it’s constant or relational, abusing is extremely harmful to every relationship. Sometimes, abusing a partner (both mentally and physically) becomes a habit, which eventually leads to a toxic relationship.
Being in an abusive relationship can be harmful to your wellbeing. It ruins our self-confidence and the respect for the person we used to love.
How to Fix a Broken Relationship
No matter how badly your relationship is broken, sometimes it’s worth to see if there’s still some love left between you two, which you can use to fix it again.
If you want to reconnect with your partner, there are some factors that you need to work on.
1. Accept The Change.
When you love each other, it has to be without exception. There will be some changes in each other’s life. If you don’t embrace those changes, there will be a conflict between you two, but don’t let that conflict ruin your relationship.
For example, you might love cats so much, but your partner is allergic to cats. Instead of holding a grudge for such a minor issue, you should accept the fact that you can’t have a cat in your house.
2. Respect Each Other’s Point of View.
Couples often get separated from each other because they find each other less respectful towards their point of view. It’s okay to have different opinions. But, it’s also crucial that you don’t force your opinion on your partner.
Instead of dominating your partner, try to listen to them and give it a thought. Also, if you find your partner being dominating and disrespectful to you, talk to him/her instead of just splitting up.
3. Show Interest and Affection.
The longer we live with our partner, the more we think we know them. Once we get comfortable with each other, we stop showing affection and interest in them, which is wrong.
If you don’t show any interest or affection to your partner, they will feel insulted. They will slowly create a distance with you, leading to a separation.
When you love someone, you must show it. No matter how much do you have in common, you need to show interest in learning more about them. This is one of the best ways that you still care for them.
4. Give Each Other Some Personal Spaces.
You might set some boundaries with your partner. The same thing goes for them.
Setting a boundary means there are certain things that you don’t want to share with your partner and won’t tolerate any interference. This is one of the critical factors that create a conflict between couples.
While setting some boundaries, tell your partner clearly how much privacy you want in your life. If your partner demands the same, show some respect and give them personal space.
5. Don’t Argue Over Money.
Money is one of the key factors every couple fights. It’s because there’s always an ego conflict between the one who earns money and the one who is dependent.
Instead of arguing over such issues, start discussing how to invest the money for the wellbeing of your relationship and future. If both of you are earning, come to an agreement on how each of you will contribute.
6. Forgive Each Other.
Most of the time, a relationship breaks because we fail to resolve our previous hurt. If you don’t forgive each other, the wound in your relationship might become severe and eventually turns into a toxic one.
Think about the severity of their mistakes. If you think they deserve forgiveness, it’s time to forgive them and give your relationship a new start.
Life is not a romantic movie, meaning that you cannot expect it to be sunshine and roses all the time. There will be arguments and conflicts, which may create some drift between you two.
Unless your partner is abusive, don’t let those minor drift ruin your relationship. Everyone deserves a second chance. Ask yourself if there’s still some love left between you two and use that love to make your bond stronger than ever.